THE SHARED ROOM

THE  SHARED  ROOM  by Kao Kalia Yang,  illustrated by Xee Reiter

Until recently death was not considered an appropriate topic for a children’s picture book.  Death, grief, sadness were “softened” by presenting the death of a pet, a wild animal, maybe a bird – or a grandparent or aging neighbor.

Death of a “best friend,” sibling or parent became an important, award-winning part of  children’s middle grade novels with the publication of Bridge to Terabithia (Newbery 1977 by Katherine Paterson), Missing May (1993 Newbery by Cynthia Rylant), On My Honor (1986 Newbery Honor by Marion Dane Bauer).  On My Honor was banned in 1995 because of it’s “depressing content” – death and grieving. At that time the criteria used to select the Newbery Award winner was argued to exclude books that focus on divorce, death, suicide or defeat.

Many children experience the death of a close friend, parent or a sibling.  Few picture books speak to this transformative, bewildering experience.  Even fewer picture books are available to help a parent share with a child the universal experience of saying good-by to someone you love, need, and want … and aren’t ready to let go of.

The images in The Shared Room reflect the emotions of a family as emotions change. First they are enjoying the brightness and lightness of a summer outing to the beach.  But when tragedy happens, when one of the children disappears … cannot be found, until found too late, the family becomes lost in grief. Images are dark, gray, heavy.  The inside of their home is filled with gloomy shadows, lights are dim, there is no cheerful cozy fire in the fireplace. Finally, acceptance and remembering happy memories of the loved one brings lightness and healing.  The family is able to reconnect.

Death is part of life.  Grief and sadness is part of the experience of being part of a family. 

The beautiful message shown through the actions of each family member reflect that when someone dies whom you love, what doesn’t die is love. 

The Shared Room by Kao Kalia Yang, illustrated by Xee Reiter is book of strength and hope.

Other recommended related books: 

Remembering Ethan by Leslea Newman, illustgrated by Tracey Nishimura Bishop

Missing Nimama by Melanie Florence, Francois Thisdale  A First Nations book

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